How to Change Someone You Love
Four Steps to Help You Help Them
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Starred review from December 21, 2009
In this self-help guide to helping, the founder of Intervention Specialists addresses the spouses, parents, and friends of addicts whose lives are out of control: "loved ones who know that change is critical and urgent." Having struggled with drugs and alcohol himself, Lamm began the difficult road back to sobriety when a friend organized an intervention; here, the deeply dedicated counselor presents a four-step method based in his experiences on both sides of the process. Showing how easy it is for well-meaning people to fall into the power trap of "nagging, prodding, manipulation or threats," Lamm details methods for successful intervention, using a group of friends and family to form an ongoing support group (a "circle of change") that will confront the abuser as a first step (with "words of encouragement, truth... and the warm protective embrace of love"). Lamm also addresses inevitable setbacks, and the stress faced by members of the support group, with practical methods, anecdotal illustrations and a comprehensive resource guide. As a thorough guide to helping substance abusers find help, this makes a valuable addition to the self-help shelves.
When your partner has issues that are life threatening, disruptive, or morbidly self-defeating, it's important for you and other loved ones to become activists for change, rather than just waiting, nagging, or even enabling the problems to continue. Here a genuine healer shows you how to help. Similar to interventions with addicts, his plan involves assembling a coalition of friends and family; delivering honest observations and a loving request to change; describing hopes, fears, and reasons to change; and preparing to take care of yourself and disengage if necessary. Along with his conversational writing, the optimism and appealing cadence of the author's speech gives this advice enormous credibility. His neighborly tone conveys comfort with his own recovery from addiction and a sincere belief in the strategies for change he offers in this hopeful audio. T.W. (c) AudioFile 2010, Portland, Maine
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