The One Thing Holding You Back

October 6, 2008
Cushnir (Unconditional Bliss
) introduces fascinating and iconoclastic ideas about health and healing in this book, which argues that “emotions are physical. Our bodies are the only places they can ever be found.” The author, a spiritual teacher, suggests treating depressions, addictions and compulsions by identifying uncomfortable physical sensations in the body as roots of suppressed emotions. His process—“finding the flinch”—allows people to acknowledge and connect to internal sadness, fear or anger (“whenever emotions are shunned or considered inappropriate, they rule most forcefully behind the scenes”), slow down and allow the feelings to arise and depart. What remains is a softer, expansive frame of mind where one can identify deeper patterns or unearth old stories without any resistance. Emotions “don't need to be felt forever, or obsessively, but just long enough to have their say,” contends Cushnir, who fleshes out his “core concepts” with a welcome abundance of profiles; case studies of using his techniques to quit everything from cigarettes to sexual addiction, and practical tips and exercises.

September 15, 2008
Counselor and lecturer Cushnir ("Setting Your Heart on Fire; Unconditional Bliss") has developed a four-step formula for achieving success and unlocking undeveloped potential. His ideas will be familiar to readers of popular psychology. He advises first connecting to an emotion, experiencing fully the corresponding physical sensation in the body, and waiting until the sensation changes before examining and analyzing. The next steps follow a continuous loop: identify the issue, imagine the worst thing that could happen, visualize the situation, feel the associated emotions, and continue the process until able to move forward. Using examples from his clients, Cushnir applies this process to problems of addiction, compulsion, and communication in relationships and in the workplace. Useful tips are given for when it may be wise to regulate emotions or postpone expressing feelings. In a final section, Cushnir imagines the benefits if emotional connection were taught in schools and used in politics. Appendixes answer questions and summarize principles, but no bibliographical references or suggestions for further reading are given. Cushnir's genius lies in his compilation of easy-to-follow principles, highlighted core concepts, and key refinements. Recommended for popular psychology collections in public libraries.Lucille M. Boone, San Jose P.L., CA

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