规矩和爱：如何学做父母 (Norms and Love: How to Be Good Parents)

不依规矩不成方圆，这句中国的老话正在被越来越多的现代心理学和教育学研究所验证。所谓做规矩就是设定界限遵循规矩,即使在崇尚个人自由的美国，无论是科学的杂志还是通俗的育儿必读都强调要给孩子从小设定界限,甚至呼吁做规矩要从婴儿出生就开始。其中的道理很简单，那便是规矩是迟早要做的，越早做，所付的代价越小而收益越大。("Nothing can be accomplished without norms or standards" – the Chinese old saying is being verified by a growing number of researches in modern psychology and education. The so-called "following the norms" means to set boundaries and adhere to norms. Even in the U.S. where individual freedom is adored, from scientific magazines to popular parenting instructions, the need to set boundaries from childhood is emphasized repeatedly, and some even calls for teaching babies to follow the norms from their births. It is simple truth that people have to follow the norms sooner or later and the earlier they do, the lower the cost and the greater the profit will be.)