Why Men Hate Going to Church

Erik Synnestvedt clearly delivers the author's cutting-edge work about why men dislike going to church. He matches voice to mood when Murrow discusses his belief that most churches today are female dominated, although led by males. Murrow believes churches cater to women when they should instead "embrace the masculine spirit." Synnestvedt perfectly renders the author's mandate: Mentor men; encourage them to make male friends, assume leadership roles, and show strength. Synnestvedt vividly describes why the author calls church today "velvet coffin Christianity." He recounts what Murrow calls "churches' spiritual thermostats": confrontation, challenge, comfort, conformity, control, and ceremony. Jesus authorized only the first three. Murrow does not call men back to church, but "calls church back to men." G.D.W. (c) AudioFile 2010, Portland, Maine

February 28, 2005
Murrow, a television writer and producer, asks and effectively answers the question: "What is it about modern Christianity that is driving men away?" Just 35% of American men say they attend church weekly, he reports, and women make up more than 60% of the typical congregation on a given Sunday. Murrow contends that the church caters to women, children and the elderly by creating a safe, predictable environment. This alienates anyone fond of risk taking, including young men and
women, but men are affected most. In order to reach men, Murrow suggests, churches must "adjust the thermostat" to embrace the masculine spirit: let men lead; give them tasks; encourage pastors to show strength and teach men through object lessons, letting them discover truth for themselves. Two of the best outreach methods: start rigorous mentoring programs and help men make friends with other men. Murrow bases his conclusions on what he claims are legitimate biological and cultural gender differences. He is aware that these observations might offend, and his thesis will find few takers among those who believe that the church needs less, not more, male influence. But Murrow's work is quite likely to get an enthusiastic reception from many Christian men. It contains sharp observations that will provoke much discussion—and, perhaps, some change.