For Better

An investigative journalist presents fascinating research on factors that appear more often in successful marriages than in unsuccessful ones. The age of marital partners, sexual arousal patterns, socioeconomic and educational status, conflict-management styles, and division of household chores all predict marriage viability. Health issues and compatibility of personal rhythms also make a difference, along with behavior patterns people can change, such as communication style. Cassandra Campbell's matter-of-fact but friendly reading strikes the right chord for this analytic guide. Her understated warmth and commitment to the material carry listeners through data and lists that would otherwise sound tedious. These strengths and the author's humanitarian tone should help listeners get a better perspective on the mysteries of love and feel more optimistic about its challenges. T.W. (c) AudioFile 2010, Portland, Maine

March 22, 2010
“Marriage today is stronger than it has been in decades,” writes Parker-Pope (The Hormone Decision
), author of the New York Times
's “Well” blog. Interviewing biologists, neuroscientists, psychologists, and sociologists, she explores the science that can explain why a marriage succeeds—examining such areas as monogamy, love, sex, children, money, and housework—and translates the science into practical advice. For instance, while monogamy is not the norm among animals, it's certainly possible for some animals and for humans to remain sexually and socially faithful to one partner. Further, regular sex should be part of a good marriage even if it occurs less frequently over time. As for conflict, learning how to fight fairly allows partners to air differences without damaging their relationship. Describing the unhappy end of her own marriage, she looks at those relationships at high risk for divorce, such as the pursuer-distancer marriage (with the pursuer usually the woman) and the operatic marriage (“characterized by dramatic highs and lows”). Although the scientific research adds depth, much of the relationship advice is familiar and commonsensical, but married couples will still benefit from this refresher course.

Starred review from September 1, 2010

New York Times blogger Parker-Pope (The Hormone Decision) believes that the best insights about love and relationships today are coming from the scientific community, where researchers apply the logic and rigors of science to the complex subject of marriage. Deftly translating scientific findings into practical advice on such hot-button topics as sex, parenting, fighting, and financial problems, Parker-Pope hopes to help those couples embarking on their first committed relationship, attempting to rescue a troubled relationship, or trying to get it right the second time around. Actress/Audie Award winner Cassandra Campbell's easy, conversational tone makes this thoughtful work feel like the guidance of a trusted friend. Very valuable advice for listeners hoping to strengthen their relationships. [See Prepub Exploded, BookSmack! 12/03/09.--Ed.]--Beth Farrell, Portage Cty. Dist. Lib., Garrettsville, OH

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