Modern Dating: A Field Guide

Starred review from March 25, 2013
Today’s 20-somethings stay single longer than any generation in history. But as HowAboutWe.com founders Brian Schechter and Aaron Schildkrout write in the book’s foreword, Atik’s “basic mission is to free dating from the antiquated notion that being single is a problem to solve.” With that caveat, playwright and Web writer Atik (also of HowAboutWe) perfectly toes the line between assuring folks they don’t need to date and equipping them to do so. She takes readers from “Totally and Completely Single” through “The First Six Months” of a relationship, with special sections on out-of-the-box date ideas and surviving worst-case sex scenarios. Among the timely guidelines for today’s singleton: “Morning-After Etiquette,” setting up an online profile, and when to text vs. when to call. And, standing in for the best friend who’s up-to-speed on every nuance of a situation, there are even decision-making flowcharts like “Can You Be Friends With Benefits?” But the graphics aren’t just gimmicks; they present plenty of practical tips for dating in the 21st century, in a tone that’s by turns reassuring and cajoling. Atik’s smart, youthful appraisal of today’s social landscape makes her seem like an expert that’s just one step ahead of you. Informed by research and delivered with style, this is big-sister advice at its best. Illus. Agent: Lauren Nathan, Melcher Media.

Starred review from June 1, 2013

Atik, Brian Schechter, and Aaron Schildkrout, founders of HowAboutWe.com (a website that encourages users to connect offline), have developed a guidebook that offers advice on going on real dates with real people. Using an appealing format full of sketches and bulleted lists, the authors impart tidbits such as the six worst things to say on a date, what makes a profile picture successful, how to be more attractive in five easy steps, and much more. Readers can try out any of the 75 date ideas and determine how to manage their "sexpectations." VERDICT A well-organized book that's suitable for libraries or as a gift.

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