The Secrets of Surviving Infidelity
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April 1, 2013
While keyed specifically to meet the needs of couples coping with the shock and pain of an affair, this vital guide from marriage and infidelity expert Haltzman (The Secrets of Happy Families) contains cogent advice for anyone in a troubled relationship. Drawing from know-how accrued not from having an affair, but from online surveys and years of working as a psychiatrist, Haltzman guides readers toward an understanding of why people resort to infidelity, explaining to transgressors how to end an affair in four steps, understand why they cheated, control impulses, make an appropriate apology, and rebuild trust. On the other hand, he helps the innocent parties take stock of their emotions, let go of anger, and decide if and when they’re ready to repair the relationship. Chapters on managing expectations, effective communication techniques, and conflict resolution are particularly resonant and useful. Ultimately, his approach can be summed up in the wise axiom, “You can either fight to be right or fight to be married.”
June 1, 2013
Haltzman (psychiatry, David Lawrence Ctr.; The Secrets of Happy Families) attempts to answer the question of what drives men and women toward having an affair. He explains the emotional, biological, and chemical aspects of human attraction and offers advice to couples on what to do once an affair is exposed, as well as how to communicate, forgive, and build a stronger relationship. Included are passages submitted to his website by individuals responsible for the infidelity, as well as those who suffer the impact of a partner's unfaithfulness. Haltzman provides professional insight into both experiences, and he encourages readers to look deeper into their own behaviors, which is especially useful for those committed to mending a relationship. While a range of emotions are considered here, Haltzman believes open communication may help best during the healing process and will foster a trusting relationship. VERDICT Haltzman is a strong believer in couples sticking it out, and his advice allows readers to decide whether to stay in a bruised relationship. Recommended for those interested in learning more about relationships, as well as students, scholars, and researchers studying psychology, human sexuality, and sociology.--Tina Chan, SUNY Oswego
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