He's Just Not That Into You

September 1, 2004
It's a classic single-woman scenario: you really like this guy, but he's giving mixed messages. You make excuses, decide he's confused, afraid of commitment. Behrendt, a former executive story editor for Sex and the City--and a formerly single (now happily married) guy who knows all the excuses--provides a simple answer: he's just not that into you. Stop kidding yourself, let go and look for someone else who will be. After all, as Behrendt sensibly puts it,"if a (sane) guy really likes you, there ain't nothing that's going to get in his way." If you're not convinced yet, by all means read this smart, funny and surprisingly upbeat little book, full of q's and a's covering every excuse woman has ever made to avoid admitting to herself that a man just wasn't that smitten with her.

In a refreshing production of this popular little book, the two authors alternate describing common relationship disappointments women suffer and providing a lot of astute no-nonsense advice. Though their over-the-top supportiveness at times seems aimed at middle school girls, the message is consistent and universal: Love yourself first, and don't let the blindness of romantic attachments and low self-esteem lead you to stay connected to unacceptable men. It's enjoyable to hear these two sharp people converse about lovesickness. They offer a sweet solution to the wrong paths many women take with uninterested, dishonest, unkind, and weird men. T.W. (c) AudioFile 2006, Portland, Maine